Emotions are the most important layer of wellness, in that they are the easiest to de-harmonise among thoughts, energy and physical body. As adults, at times we feel happy, blissful, sad, angry and at other instances, we may feel guilty, anxious, hopeless, disgusted and so on. When the intensity of these emotions goes beyond our capacity to manage, we look for external agencies to help us get through it all. Shopping, bingeing, watching content online, social media, substance use, casual intimacy, gossiping etc. are just some of the many ways in which many of us cope with our emotions.
We are born and live in harmony as children. But while growing up, whenever we are met with any unpleasantness, sadness, loneliness, etc. a part of us gets stuck and freezes in that moment. This part of us then stays frozen as an 'inner child' and does not grow up, even though the body may age with time. And so, as adults when we are met with similar situations like the trauma of this inner child, we do not respond to what is actually happening with us. Rather the collective feelings of the previous trauma and a 'perceived' similar incident in turn result in an outburst or intense emotional reactions.
If as a child, if you felt unsupported, alone, unheard, unappreciated, or even unsafe, chances are you grew up incorporating many big and small belief systems around these feelings. These then led you to adopt many behaviours as a way of protecting yourself and here you are sitting with your cup of coffee thinking why is it that I am not able to open up to people as easily as others can?!
The answer is simple. Life is not a series of happy or sad accidents, rather, your experiences as a child and your conclusions in them ultimately impact what you choose, how you respond, what kind of people you attract and even how easy or difficult life is as an adult.
The unhealed wounds of our inner children make up the emotional blockages of our adult selves. They can be of numerous kinds :
- Unloved, unheard, unseen, neglected and uncared feelings
- Rebellious or passively aggressive tendencies
- Unworthy, undeserving, undervalued feelings
- Low self esteem parts in the areas of appearance, performance and social presence
When you heal, you are letting go of all these unhealthy thoughts, conclusions, feelings which are no longer working for you. You are then able to separate your life from how you perceive it. This works like an auto reset for your system, meaning you start living your life as you were before this trauma happened. You become a more authentic version of yourself, and move closer to who you would rather like to grow into.
You can also experience inner child therapy with us at Antarmann Holistic Studio, the chain of Holistic Clinics aimed at making therapy available and accessible to all. Reach out to us in the comments section below or message us at +91 888 146 2000 to know more.
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